Your kids need to hear it from you, first!

The following was contributed by Katy Faust.

It’s that time of year again when we send the piece of our heart that wanders outside of our body back to school. For us parents, the send usually includes a combination of cheers or tears. But for those of us who send our children to public school, the occasion can also raise fears. When it comes to their worldview, we don’t put our kids on a neutral playground. We know that the entire education system has been captured by Wokism. And we understand, more than anyone, the risks that Wokism – which distorts historical, economic and biological reality – poses to our children.

So here are some back-to-school tips from the wife of a pastor and mother of four teenagers who, though they attend Woke Public School in Seattle, hold fast to their beliefs.

Primary school.

During elementary school, your job is to saturate your children with truth and beauty. Children at this age are little sponges – that’s why they can easily memorize huge swaths of scripture when you’re struggling to memorize a verse. Tap into that gift of absorption by explaining, in an age-appropriate way, the truth about sex as a good gift between a husband and wife and how a new life begins, about the beautiful and distinct differences between men and women, and on our country whose sins were common to other nations, but whose achievements were outstanding.

At this age, they cannot filter out distorted ideas about their nation, their faith, and their own body. You must therefore shelter them, as much as possible, from the aggressive media, books and adults who distort the truth about their country, their faith and their body.

When the breakup enters their world, tell them the truth: “We love Andrew and his two next door mums, we’re so sad he doesn’t have a dad.” But generally, at this age, protect your children from ideologies or people who aim to evangelize them in this rupture.

middle school

In middle school, your child’s brain changes, so your tactics need to change too. In the early grades, they uncritically absorbed everything a favorite adult said to them, but around grade 6, you’ll notice they start to question everything. “What if two men do you want to have a baby? ” A girl being trapped in a boy’s body“That’s not a cause for panic, but a sign that they’re ready for what I call”great equipment.” Whereas before you filtered out harmful and distorted ideas about history and humanity, in middle school you, the parent, will present them.

It’s important for kids to hear about porn, socialism, transgender, and revisionist history from you, mom or dad. Why is that? Because on controversial topics, whoever speaks to your child first will automatically be seen as the expert in your child’s mind. So if the first time your daughter hears the phrase “bisexualis in Mr. Taylor’s 7th grade health class, who do you think she’ll come back to when she sees an Instagram post encouraging her to be “bi-curious?” Answer-not you. But because you, the parent, are most invested in her well-being and her future, she needs to see you as authority so she’ll turn to you – not her teachers, friends, or the Internet – when asked to write “a fairer American constitution” or when she has to do a book report on Stamp.

“They’re too young to hear about pornographyor “they won’t understand the nuances of the compromise 3/5», you object. But if you refuse to talk with your children about these difficult subjects, their enlightened teacher will gladly do it for you. And I guarantee you won’t like what they say. So the only option is for you to deliberately introduce these topics to your children and have foundational conversations under your belt. This will prepare you for ongoing conversations throughout the year.

High school

If you deliberately saturated them with truth and beauty in grade school and helped them deal with competing worldviews in middle school, you’ll be spared a lot of questions in high school. But your job is not done. You may no longer be explaining the basics of sex or why sexual feelings are inadequate as a basis of our identity. In high school, you have to go from educator to consultant. Your older teenager needs to be able to consult you when his beliefs are challenged – when his geometry teacher wants everyone to say and use each other’s favorite pronouns, when his friend comes out as “pansexual”, when he chooses to oppose abortion in their persuasive essay.

A consultant has two main characteristics: they must be an expert on the subject (you have already proven that you are) and the client must be able to access them. To be an effective consultant, you provide access to your teen by staying connected with them. Many parents of high school students think their kids don’t really need it anymore, especially if they have “good kids.” This is certainly true when it comes to caring tasks, such as preparing their lunch or folding their laundry. But not when it comes to emotional connection.

High school students need parental closeness more than ever. But here’s the thing: you can’t have emotional closeness without physical closeness. Being around them is an essential aspect of fortifying your high school student. That’s because your child won’t make an appointment to address a moral dilemma with you, but a story of his 3rd period “walk of privilege” will naturally fall on a morning run together or when you’re carrying him to practice. of football. If your teen is going to stand firm in high school, you need to be in close proximity to him on a regular basis.

Truth and Love Pattern

Isaiah was to speak about America 2022 when he warned, “Woe to those who call good evil and evil good.” It is up to us to raise children who can spot and disprove the lies of our culture.

But our duty does not stop there. In addition to training our children to think rightly so, we must also encourage them to to like exactly. It means initiating and extending friendship to those with whom we disagree. It means being wild with bad ideas, but gentle with people. It means firmly holding the truth with one hand and firmly holding the dignity and worth of every human being with the other. It’s a difficult balance for everyone, but especially for the children who are outnumbered in the class.

So don’t expect your kids to be able to do something you haven’t done yourself. At every stage of development, they need to be able to look up to you as a role model in balancing conviction and compassion. They should be watching you extend your friendship to the two mothers next door. They should hear you say how you politely decline HR’s request to put pronouns in your LinkedIn profile, and their “pansexual” friend should feel most loved about you.

It’s a crazy time to be a parent. But rest assured, neither you nor your children are living in this country right now by accident. When you focus on age-appropriate training, you can raise children who culture influencers rather than children who are culturally influenced.

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