Sexual positivity negatively affects the current narrative – Marquette Wire
This story is part of an Opinions series focusing on women’s issues.
Since first wave From feminism, dating back to the Seneca Falls Convention in 1848 debating equal rights for women, feminism has sought to end the oppression of women in civil, educational, religious, and work-related scenarios. In recent years, mainstream feminism has adopted the philosophy of feminism of choice, an idea that a woman is liberated because it is she who makes a choice.
Choice feminism promotes sexual positivity, freeing the culture of sex and derogatory cinematic pornography. Currently, the culture of sex and degrading pornography portraying violence against women undermines the ideals of feminism by creating toxic beliefs about the opposite sex and ignoring the core value of what they are trying to preserve: the sexual acceptance.
Sex culture is a loose term used to describe the current forms of relaxed and meaningless sexual intimacy that are common among millennials and Generation Z. Sex is often considered an exciting part of the college experience. par excellence, due to the exhilarating exercise of freedom away from the restrictive rules of home and high school. However, these connections often result in negative and confusing emotions for both parties, expressed in guilt, regret and decreased feelings of connection. A 2008 Human nature A study by psychologist Anne Campbell found that men felt sorry for using a woman for sex while women experienced negative emotions when they felt used for sex. While there is remorse on both sides, an inherent power dynamic exists within these casual relationships.
Support for the culture of connection has been found in various forms of media, such as the “podcast”Call her daddy.As a new form of feminism, host Alexandra Cooper and former host Sofia Franklyn talk bluntly with guests about sex, relationships and personal empowerment under the guise of comedy. Considered a raw version of feminism, “Call Her Daddy” attempts to normalize conversations about sex but instead focuses on regaining power in sex through the manipulation and contempt of a sexual partner. Separated from misogynistic comments about women’s appearances and their need to be more provocative Shouldn’t they be conventionally attractive, Cooper and Franklyn, supposed feminists, encourage toxic behaviors such as gas lighting, a form of abuse where one partner tries to convince the other to question their reality. In this scenario, Cooper and Franklyn insist on gas lighting to regain power and control in a relationship.
Shows like “Call Her Daddy” promote toxic sex positivity, encouraging listeners to indulge in senseless sex and manipulate their partners into playing the men they connect with. The idea behind “Call Her Daddy” is to have an honest conversation about sex but fails to ensure respect and equality for women and men.
The hookup culture encourages casual sex for women to choose their own sexual releases without “any conditions attached” as a rebuttal to the outdated philosophy that women attach themselves to their sexual partners.
This type of sexual positivity also emphasizes rebutting sexual repression, causing women to express their desires that have been ignored or overlooked.
One of the biggest obstacles to this is the pornography industry. Since 1960s and 1970s, there was a backlash against the pornography and the subordination of women shown there. Traditional heterosexual pornography has long focused on the male gaze. In 2019, Pornhub revealed that the demographics of their audiences indicate that men are the main viewers porn, because their audience in the United States is 70% male. Due to the need to respond to the male gaze, the camera work focuses on the female body while showing few men, allowing the male viewer to step into the film as a screen substitute through the male actor.
The pornography industry has exploited women by forcing them to engage in sexual acts for the purpose of entertainment. In the very popular pornographic film “Deep Throat” (1972), actor Linda Lovelace, who played the main character in the movie, suffered sexual exploitation from her husband while not seeing any money for the film. In his memories of 1980 “Torment,” she recounts her abuse in the porn industry, like her husband forcing her to engage in sex acts for money. Lovelace was not the only one who was exploited, as pornography has been shown to be directly related to sex trafficking.
While there are ethical types of pornography, such as feminist porn, the general public promotes pornography that sexually abuses and degrades women, which supports the practice and development of unethical pornography. Many women are forced to perform in front of the camera. This movies show fantasies that cause viewers to think sex is violent and abusive, rather than fully educating what real sex is like in reality.
The downside to the connection culture and the growing porn industry is that the two don’t focus on relationships. This lack of privacy and respect in sex creates a negative effect on sexual positivity. Sexual positivity is about the full expression of sexuality and the sexual liberation that you face when making choices about your feelings in your body. However, in the practice of sexual positivity, too much emphasis has been placed on the actual sexual act and how it is performed. Core values have been lost in the current dialogue regarding gender: Freedom. Consent. Acceptance.
Sexual expression should be encouraged, but more importantly, sex should leave partners feeling fulfilled and connected, unused and exploited.
This story was written by Laura Niezgoda. She can be contacted at [email protected]