Johnny Depp and Amber Heard embody our sexual dysfunction
In his ongoing defamation lawsuit against his ex-wife Amber Heard, Johnny Depp has testified that he was a victim of domestic violence and disputed Heard’s published insinuation that he was violent. According to Depp, she would berate him and throw objects at him while he “retreats from their arguments by leaving the room or locking himself in the bathroom.”
Without taking sides on this issue — since there’s no way of knowing who’s telling the truth — it’s worth noting that Depp’s account would have sounded ridiculous just a decade ago. Here’s one of Hollywood’s most famous actors complaining that he was abused by a woman 23 years younger than him. How could he be so weak and she so strong?
Far from idle gossip, the answer to this question reveals some important trends that have been influencing both genders for some time now. Due to the propaganda of modern feminism and the corrosive decadence of modern culture, women as a whole have come to dominate and abuse men, while men as a group have become helpless victims mired in poverty. mediocrity.
Free men to become children
A key to understanding this troubling development is Spider-Man’s famous quote, “With great power comes great responsibility.” So says Uncle Ben (or Aunt May, depending on the film) to inexperienced teenager Peter Parker, who later internalizes this lesson as the superhero Spider-Man.
The advice is not a statement about the ethics of being a superhero, but about becoming a man. As a young man on the brink of independent adulthood, Peter will soon have the great powers of male strength that will enable him to work, study and build as well as defend his loved ones. He must be responsible with this power, serve others and be creative instead of the other way around.
Unfortunately, this idea of matching male power with great responsibility is foreign to most men today, who lack both power and responsibility. On the contrary, based on their reluctance to compete, lead or even ask a girl out, the majority of young men today can be called weak and irresponsible.
There are many reasons for this decline among men, but the main ones are usually lack of role models, addiction to screens (usually video games), and pornography. More and more boys are growing up in fatherless homes, and their schools and entertainments are largely lacking in virtuous adult men who can serve as guides. Thus, they never learn the great power of disciplined masculinity and end up wasting their energies on virtual flings and virtual sex.
Empowering women to become bullies
On the other hand, Uncle Ben’s quote would apply pretty well to most women today, who are very empowered – albeit oddly sadder – than ever before. They get more college degrees, work more, and hold more positions of authority. In addition, more and more women are becoming heads of households, being both breadwinners and caretakers.
What is missing, however, is the “great responsibility” that comes with this new power. While great at encouraging and inspiring girls to strive for excellence and achievement, modern feminist messages often fail to combine this message with support and compassion for others. It’s petty and resentful. Too often, the empowerment and liberation of women becomes synonymous with intimidation and selfishness.
When this feminist narrative is multiplied a million times and reinforced by emasculated schools and households, the result is an unhealthy imbalance between men and women that violates the nature of both sexes. “Empowered” women actively dominate passive men who never go beyond adolescence.
Today, because of these divergent trajectories of men and women, a wife abusing her husband is entirely possible and often happens. For all his wealth and sex appeal, Depp is decidedly not manly: he’s vain, not particularly smart, and suffers from periodic drug addictions. And on some level, his decision to marry a woman much younger than him suggests poor judgment and insecurity.
One could easily imagine Heard being disillusioned and frustrated with her husband and lashing out at him. Here, she expected him to take the lead, but instead, it seems to be the other way around. Maybe the women of the past would accept that and encourage their husbands to take matters into their own hands and be more manly. However, most women today would do what Heard did: divorce the loser and squeeze as much as the law allows.
It’s not just Johnny Depp and Amber Heard
Whether it was really Depp who abused Heard or Heard who abused Depp doesn’t change the fact that the children Depp brought into their marriage probably suffered the most. Their parents were in no condition to take care of them, and at least one of them is an abuser.
What makes this story so tragic is that this kind of dysfunction plays out everywhere. Weak men and aggressive women let each other and their children down. No wonder few of them want to get married and have children.
Addressing this issue will require a culture-wide shift in the understanding of gender, ultimately recognizing them as separate, unique, and complementary. Men and women are not in competition with each other, and toxic masculinity is not magically redeemed when women do. On the contrary, men should be virtuous men and women should be virtuous women, seeking to serve each other and build something beautiful together.
In other words, men and women must live the wisdom of Uncle Ben, combining their great power with great responsibility and vice versa. If they do, they can be like Peter Parker and become the heroes of their own stories. If they don’t, they are more likely to become like Johnny Depp and fall victim to a destructive and humiliating relationship.