I thought I was a massive heterosexual until I met a handsome man at work
DEAR DEIDRE: I ALWAYS thought I was a straight, red-blooded man – until a gorgeous man came to work in our office.
I am 31 years old and I live with my girlfriend who is 29. The man in question joined our team as a marketing consultant.
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I work as a call center consultant. This guy is 34 and everything I’m not – tall and muscular, with a dazzling smile.
We both go to the same gym near work and we need to know each other. He has a girlfriend and a son.
I now find it difficult to have sex with my partner unless I fantasize about him.
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I also watch a lot of gay porn.
Could it just be a phase? I would like to tell this man how I feel, but it could ruin my friendship with him and also things with my girlfriend.
DEIDRE SAYS: Our sexuality is on a sliding scale and many people are not completely straight or gay, but feel they fall somewhere in between.
This guy is beyond your reach, however. He is attached and so are you. Telling her how you feel can ruin things, as you say.
You feed your fuzzy feelings by watching gay porn. Relieve this by focusing more on your girlfriend.
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